To my sisters, a reminder of love.
Hey Sis! How are you holding up over there? It’s February again, the time of year where “love” or lack thereof comes to the forefront of our minds. Every store, website, social media post, heck even our favorite foods are promoting “their “version of what love is! It can be so confusing thinking you need to be of a certain status to enjoy love. We must understand that love is multifaceted, we love friends, family, even the empathy we feel for a person wronged is a type of love. Maybe people are telling you that you shouldn’t be single, or that you are missing out on freedom by being married. Perhaps they are saying walk away from a relationship you wholeheartedly understand or stay in one because it’s not “that bad”. We need to stop trying to live our lives unrealistically. Life is too valuable to live in an unloving environment. It’s also too precious to not create an environment of love for the people we choose to be around. YOU could be someone’s only source of love they ever encounter. Don’t grow weary in creating a loving space.
Relationships should provide reciprocity. When you can go months without seeing someone and instantly pick up where you both left off, that means both parties offer something to another, love. That being said we need to do more with space in between those we love, we should NEVER be too busy to spend five minutes on love. Through hurts, betrayal and misunderstanding love can heal. With understanding, repentance, and selflessness love can restore. Love restores things like relationships, awareness of self-worth, the power to live on when feeling hopeless and these are just a few.
Know that Love starts with you! Sis let me tell you that you are loved, you were created in love and with purpose. Scientifically speaking you beat all odds to end up born and even more day-to-day challenges to get to be here, right now, reading this article. If up until this very point you have felt you had no reason to love again know that YOU do! You also have an inherited right TO BE LOVED! You have a reason and a responsibility as a beautiful breathing soul on this planet to experience both sides of love. Know that love will come back on you, but let me be honest you have to put it out. You have to love yourself and value yourself, then surround yourself with people who feel the same. Maybe you are not ready to receive love. You can still work on loving yourself and creating that environment to bring people into soon. With covid protocols, volunteering may be a challenge but it is still needed. Find a way you can create and build your space of love. Maybe it is saying hello to an elderly person on your next grocery shopping trip. Perhaps it is bringing up your neighbors’ trash cans to their garage so they don’t blow away.Maybe it is telling a teenage boy,( who has sagging pants or stringy hair and piercings) who holds the door open for you and is caring for his younger sibling, “ Good job young man, you are being a good example for your sibling I am proud of you!” Next time someone does even a small gesture that you appreciate at a store or restaurant demand to speak to the manager and tell them how grateful you are for that worker. Don’t forget to tell the worker too. In doing so you have planted a seed of hope that will grow to love and create a harvest for love and change in the world. These actions are extremely minimal but have lasting effects. It may feel weird or uncomfortable at first but sincere words carry power and weight.
I was thinking, Sis we should not limit our focus of love to a couple of days or a single day a year. Love should be a lifestyle! I encourage you to start offering love and grace on a daily basis to those you call family and those who you say you love. Whether biological or created, these relationships should be nurtured in love and patience. Love is an action word let’s plant it and watch it grow! Wishing you well mind body and soul.
“4 Love is patient, love is kind, it is not envious. Love does not brag, it is not puffed up. 5 It is not rude, it is not self-serving, it is not easily angered or resentful. 6 It is not glad about injustice, but rejoices in the truth. 7 It bears all things, believes all things, hopes all things, endures all things.”
1 Corinthians 13:4-7 NET version